Dear girls and ladies , if you believe you are a woman of potential, I am here to let you know that there is a movie about a murderous car tire named ROBERT.
The entire movie named ROBERT, features the tire rolling around , killing people , blowing things up, and causing distraction to the person who runs after it, as it takes away his focus from development and progress toward effort to catch and keep the tire.
In the course of our career administrative and counseling assignments, we have seen a lot of things about marriage and relationships.
For those, particularly the girls , who are desperate and moderate in search for a human- mentality induced celebrated status called “MARRIAGE” , I should counsel you that no matter how much you think you love a man, you should know that marriage has the inevitable capacity to determine the entire course of your life, and could bring hardluck and distraction to you.
When you want to make a choice of a man in marriage, don’t forget that what is called “love” is just a feelling, not a destiny.
Look for the following green flags.
1) God- fearing nature or Piety
How do you know a God- fearing man?
This is not determined by being religious. In fact, of all bad men , religious bad men are the worse.
Knowing that a man is God-fearing , is determined by how they act within the measures of good conscience and belief in the principles of karma — that whatsoever a man sows, so shall reap.
A man who fears divine judgment, or submit to God’s omnipotent commands — afraid to confront and violate the law of nature.
This life philosophy is the only thing that makes a man to act sensibly and treat people fairly and morally .
God-fearingness is not synonymous with religiosity . In fact you should be cautious of excessively religious people.
2) Sense of Understanding
The man should have understanding and be able to separate disrespect from gender equality right .
Avoid chauvinistic mindsets who believe that a woman is a purchased bag, and have a tendency to be a control-freak, instead of a person with shared mutual and democratic character that isolate and discuss issues at shared intellectual and reasonable levels toward a constructive decision.
3) Family oriented.
You need to check how a man treats his own family members , his siblings and parents. Does he care for them? And immediately he is introduced to your family members, does he treats them as his own family?
A man who has no regards for family love is dangerous.
4) Hard-working Personality:
Don’t pretend about this, as a lazy man is not only dangerous, but he will overstress you with family burdens and makes it difficult for you to progress in life. A lazy man does not deserve help, talk less of marriage.
5) Humility:
Humility is the quality of not having an excessive sense of self-importance, but a personality free from arrogance and pride.
A man without humility will always strive to lower your sense of identity and if your eyes open, as time goes, he will live a life of confrontation.
6) Sense of Humor:
Any person who lacks sense of humor cannot connect with others in a deeper level for building beautiful and lasting relationships.
As loving and caring is important in a relationship, at the same time, having sense of humor builds deeper and better relationships. It indicates friendship, love and compatibility.
If you date a person who always finds it difficult to smile at your jokes, and rather do feel that your friendly jokes are insults and disrespect to him, it means there is no soul connection — what you have is mere lust-and- passion relationship, not friendship.
7) Contentment
One of the traits to run far from is greed.
A greedy person is dangerous in all dimensions.
He doesn’t need to be harmful to you today. In the future, he would unless you are not rich or successful when in marriage. There is a story of a husband who arranged kidnapping of his wife that led to the wife’s demise. All because the wife refused to give him access to her younger sister’s money who worked in the USA and invested in Nigeria under the sister supervision.
8. Integrity.
Integrity depicts and reflects honesty and sincerity in a man’s personality.
You know how he treats others, check if he has integrity. Even if he appears to be honest and sincere to you but not to others, know that he only pretends to get you into marriage, but he is narcissistic.
A narcissist is good in pretense to get what he wants, but you can depict his real character on how he treats others.
The same way, a narcissist has a remarkable ability to appear sweet, generous, and flawless in public, effortlessly crafting an image of perfection that captivates everyone around them. This facade can easily blind you into believing you’ve found the perfect partner. But behind closed doors or with time, when the audience is gone, their true nature emerges—one that is far from the charm they display.
Take my words, you must notice these small cues before you commit yourself to marriage, otherwise you will live to regret forever.
Surprisingly, many women who have gotten committed men with these qualities have also jilted them by taking their good relationship for granted and began to pursue the negative traits, due to lust and misguided priorities.
So stop claiming that people are not perfect when you try to justify wrong choices in marriage while being propelled by your lust and passion attachments .
Isn’t in the Christian Bịblė –
Matthew 5:48 that is written
” You must be perfect, just as your father in heaven is perfect” ?
When you ignore the absence of basic green flags in your poor choices, and in future begin to experience the reactions of imperfect people, you start complaining or regret in silence.
Stop using ‘no one is perfect’ to justify poor choices in marriage . You prevent genuine self-reflection, block access to what is good, and halt accountability, when you desist all wise advice and rather pursue or attach yourself to wrong choices .
When you make poor choices, you do not only harm yourself, you prevent your family’s joy and set forth an imperfect generation.
With all my heart love, God bless you.
